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A Complete Guide On How To Give An Amazing Back Massage

Ever wondered how you can give an amazing massage to your partner to soothe all their back pain? You don’t need to be a professional in order to give a satisfying experience. You can start with the basics and be able to grasp what’s needed in performing a massage.

Back massage is a truly indulgent treat for people who feel pain, tension, and any bothersome knots on their back. One session is enough to increase the blood flow on the muscles and skin, resulting in an almost instantaneous relief from pain and stress.

People resort to getting back massages more frequently these days due to varied personal reasons. So why not take this chance to learn massage for the purpose of making a career out of it or merely just giving it to loved ones? Whatever your motives are on learning how to give a massage, we are here to you guide you all throughout.


Prior to giving a massage, it pays to prepare the essential requirements for your “client” to fully enjoy the relaxing therapy. Having the right tools and equipment makes all the difference. Here is what you need to arrange before giving the massage: 

A serene location

Take into consideration the ambiance of the spot you have chosen to perform the massage. Tranquility is a must in every massage session to increase the relaxing benefits. Loudness is not conducive for relaxation at all; silence is best for stress relief.

The right bed

A massage table is the best option of course, but if you are just a beginner, you might opt to use a bed, floor mat, or even a kitchen table that is sturdy enough to have someone lie down on it.  As long as it is firm and comfortable, it could pass as your personal massage table.

Soft pillow

The comfort of the “client” is your top priority. Make ready a fine quality pillow that would support the head and other parts that will need the use of it.

The essential oils

Though not required, the correct oils and scent can maximize the relaxing sensations of a massage. Not only does it reduce the awkward friction, but its scent can benefit the overall therapy. You can try Lavender, Jojoba and Coconut oils for starters.


Stripping off clothes will depend upon your “client’s” discretion, but if he decides to go at it, towels are a must to drape over the sensitive parts of the body.

Soft music (optional)

Though quietness is a major requirement in performing a massage, you can play some soft music in the background. It works just as well as total silence does. There is music that is soothing to the nerves, so add it to the playlist.

Lit candles (optional)

Lit candles surrounding you is conducive to soothing effects. They can serve as the source of the light in a moderately lit room. Lit candles are the perfect touch to a tranquil spot where you are performing the massage.

Method and Techniques

Step 1

    • Have the person lie down on his stomach and turn his head on one side. Ask him to take slow deep breaths during the massage.
    • Pour a small amount of oil onto your palm and warm it up by rubbing it between your hands.
    • Spread the oil onto the person’s back by gliding long steady strokes. This is called effleurage.
    • Use both of your hands to start at the bottom of the back and move upward. Apply pressure upward towards the heart where the direction of blood flow is. Then lightly bring the hands down to the outside of the back. Decrease the pressure as you go to the outside but keep your skin in touch with the back.
    • Do this repeatedly for 3 to 5 minutes while gradually increasing the pressure from light to medium.

Step 2

    • Use the petrissage technique to apply more pressure in a circular motion on the waist. This is similar to kneading as you will need to roll and press your hands onto the area for improved blood circulation.
    • Use your palms, fingertips, and knuckles to apply the circular motion from the waist across the entire back.
    • Do this for a maximum of 5 minutes. You can alternately do this technique with the effleurage.

Step 3

    • Do the percussive strokes on the person’s entire back by stimulating it with brief repetitive contacts of your hands. You can use your cupped hands and fingertips that are evenly gathered at one point, or the flat surface of your fingers when formed in a knuckle.
    • Make sure your wrists are relaxed. Flex your wrists while doing the percussive strokes to avoid applying too much pressure.
    • Do this technique for 2 to 3 minutes on the entire back for the benefit of the tissues there.

Step 4

    • Perform muscle-lifting techniques by closing your fingers while holding out the thumbs. It looks as if your hands are claws of a lobster. Apply the pressure in a twisting, lifting motion.
    • Do this method up and down the back for 3 minutes.

Step 5

    • Stand at the head of the table and place your thumbs at the upper back, right below the neck and either side of the spine.
    • With your thumbs extended, gently push down toward the lower back with the pressure aimed towards the person’s feet rather than the ground.
    • Alternate the pressure applied on either thumb, sliding your way from the top of the back down to the hips.
    • Ensure that you are only applying pressure on the muscles on either side of the spine and not directly on the backbone. As a beginner, it’s risky to get involved with the spine so steer clear from it.

Step 6

    • Go back to standing on one side of the bed and place your hands on either side of the person’s hip—one near you and one on the far side.
    • Start to pull your hands on the opposite direction of where it is. Do this with a fluid motion. In the middle, they should slide against each other.
    • Repeat this technique on the entire back until you reach the shoulder area and then do it again downwards.
    • Do this 3 more times.

Do’s and Don’ts

Ensure that you remember these do’s and don’ts to fully redeem the benefits of a relaxing back massage.


    • Check the person’s skin condition for any complications.
    • Ask if the person is allergic or sensitive to any scent or ingredients that could be found in your oil or lotion.
    • Stop massaging any area that feels numb and stinging.
    • Wipe off any excess oil with a warm, damp towel.


    • Apply direct pressure on bony areas.
    • Massage broken, blistered, or infected skin.
    • Give a massage to someone younger than 20 years old or older than 55 who are experiencing back pain for the first time.
    • Give a massage to someone with a fever, any recent injury or difficulty in bending, as well as cancer, nerve and spine problems, and HIV.
    • Blabber on to the person. Remember, peace.

This is how you give an amazing massage to someone when you are just starting out. If you are interested to go deeper into the practice, you can find online courses to help you, like this home massage therapist course. There are many ways you can learn, and this is one of the easiest.

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